Relationships….its time to dig a bit deeper. Lately I’ve had some things going on in my life, relationships starting, relationships ended in the last year, and then suprisingly start again but in a different capacity. So here is my question for you guys. Are you friends with your ex? In my lifetime, in all the relationships I’ve been in, which isn’t that many, a handful of serious ones, I always come out on the other side as a friend to that person. To me its normal, to others, it appears to not be as normal. I do realize that in most circumstances its tough at first, and its not as though I feel the need to be that person’s bff as soon as we break up but I think that as a relational human being its natural. Also, in the lesbian community, there are so many weird and strange dynamics that come into play that its sometimes mind boggling. Girl meets girl. Girl becomes friend with girl. Girl suddenly thinks other girl is hot. Girl and girl get together. Girl and girl enter relationship. Girl and girl are connected at the hip. They are best friends, companions, lovers, inseperable. Then at some point, something happens. It either cements their relationship or breaks them apart. Lets all face the facts, there is nothing like a woman scorned. The darkness comes out. It ain’t pretty. So then girl and girl end things. Problem is, girl + girl had a lot of friends together, so how do all those friends fair out in the big picture?
Anyhow, I’ve just had the chance to sit back and watch some interesting dynamics unravel lately surrounding women and break ups. I don’t refer to only lesbo breakups, I have a couple straight friends too (**gasp, I know…shocking**) and thats a whole other can of worms. Seriously. So I guess I’m kind of rambling incessantly here but its just I’ve had a lot on my brain lately. So chime in….are you friends with your ex? If so…how is that for you?